Since time immemorial, males have always been fascinated by the female body. It’s a normal thing that cuts across all cultures.
My community has a story of girls who came from society where a gap between the front teeth was considered to be the epitome of beauty. If a girl had it, she was worth her weight in gold. Young men killed lions to win her eye. When she got married, her parents got many cows goats as bride price.
One day, several girls who didn’t have the bewitching gap between their teeth went to a teeth smith to have the ‘error’ corrected. The procedure went well and they were satisfied. As they were walking home, they met two young men who were headed for a raid.
Who is the fairest of us all? They chorused.
The first young man surveyed them all, then finally pointed on the girl with the plumpest thighs. Then they posed the same question to the second young man. He pointed out the girl with the longest braids. The girls went home crying.
There is the story of a girl called Pecola in the book The Bluest Eye by Toni Morrison. Her main aim in life was to have the bluest eyes of all. But she was black, and Black people naturally do not have blue eyes. She lived a miserable life, just like many girls who aspire to non-achievable ideals.
Like Pecola, girls shouldn’t aim to have what’s not possible. Instead, they should appreciate what they have first. Then their confidence will go up. They will start excelling in sports and academics and leadership.
In addition, girls should aspire to values, not looks alone. They should aim to be healthy, not thin. They should aim to be smart, not sexy. Girls should learn to put themselves first. Girls should learn to accept themselves, just as they are-and the world will accept them.
To achieve this, they need resources like the book Just as you are A teens guide to self acceptance and lasting self esteem.This literary gem provides effective tools for combating feelings of inadequacy, unworthiness, and low self-esteem that are so common among teens. Readers will learn strategies for self-acceptance, changing negative thinking patterns, and communicating effectively. The book is clear, easy to read, and filled with practical exercises.
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